On Halloween night in 1992, I lost my virginity to a guy that could care less about me. (Don’t judge.)

I was seeking love but what I experienced was hate–hatred of myself for compromising and of him because I felt used and impure.

This led me on a spiral of other self-sabotaging, toxic behaviors as I attempted to fill the God-shaped hole in my heart with worldly pleasures. It happens more often than we like to believe–self-sabotage.

Defined by Psychology Today, self-sabotage is undermining of your own values–this was easy for me to do because I had very loose values–or perhaps non-existent ones.

While maybe not as extreme as the onset of my self-sabotaging behaviors, you might be able to relate:

  • You want to go to the gym early, BUT you stay up too late watching Netflix and snooze through the alarm.
  • You want to lose 10lbs., BUT you enjoy 2-for-1 margaritas at Chili’s on Friday for happy hour with your coworkers.
  • You want to be in a relationship, BUT you act all crazy. (well, maybe that is just me!)

In today’s episode of the Shine with Frannie Show, “The 1st time I had sex, and the cycle of self-sabotage that followed” I share how God met me in my darkest moments and how these powerful exercises helped me end the cycle of self-sabotage.

If you, or someone you know, experience cycles of self-sabotage, then completing the exercises below may be the support you need:

  1. “But” reduction & and addition
  2. Desire + emotion healing

Click the links below to listen on whichever platform you listen to podcasts.

I pray this episode blesses you!

If any of this resonates or you feel like you’re in a cycle of self-sabotage, reply to this message; I would love to pray for you!

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